B.A.S.I.C. = Brash Asinine Sarcastic Insane Christless
[NOTE TO READERS: I ask that ALL of you please forgive my use of the term “chic” in reference to human females; I know better. However, use of the term is more for affect/impact than anything else.]
Just over a year ago, a former coworker and I were talking about relationships. Most everyone knew of my divorced status and also that I am committed to allowing the Lord to work in me, for me, through me, with me, and—as is determined by Him—even against me when necessary. Amen! (LOL) Well, this coworker and I started talking about things we’ve learned over the years, and I let her know in the most serious yet humorous way that, “I don’t won’t a BASIC chic”! She cracked up laughing because she really wasn’t expecting me, “Mr. Poised, Formal, and Professional” to speak on that level. So, I think it caught her off-guard. Nevertheless, after she got over the initial shock of my statement and settled her laughter, I spoke of what I have learned about myself—mainly my desire to please God in EVERY aspect of my public and private life—and the fact that if, by God’s will, I am to marry again, the Lord knows that she will need to be sold-out to Him and Him alone. As a result, B.A.S.I.C. (Brash Asinine Sarcastic Insane Christless) females need not look my way. Besides, I am not “looking” anyway (LOL).
The conversation we had resulted from some encounters I had with other coworkers and passersby of the opposite gender—encounters that allowed me to focus on the hearts, minds, and spirits of the individuals. Through these encounters, the Lord strengthened me to stand firmly on the values and the self-worth (based on how He defines me) He has gifted me. To make things crystal clear…the work the Father has given me is ministry—perhaps, and I mean perhaps, not from the pulpit of a church but ministry all the same. Because of this, the B.A.S.I.C. chic would be a major hindrance to all that is to be done. In fact, she would be a major challenge to the ministry of the home simply because she would be Brash Asinine Sarcastic Insane Christless!
I’ve already talked to the Lord about Him fixing/preparing my heart for whatever is next in my life, including relationships. I trust Him to reveal to me the one He has truly prepared for me AND to have me truly prepared for her. So, here’s what God has matured me to not only accept but to understand and embrace without questions and/or doubts:
We are to be honest with God about what we desire, but we should also allow for that which He desires for us ultimately. If we are honest with the Father, who is our Lord and God, then we can also be honest with ourselves and with others.
Do not settle (as my friend Miguel said to me some time ago). Maintain the virtues and standards God has given you. Wait on what He will give you and how He gives it to you. Allow Him to continue preparing you for the things He has planned for you. And remember…you are not in this alone. Others of us are also in the waiting right along with you as God prepares us, too.
But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. (Matthew 6:33 – NIV)
In Jesus’ name, Amen!